Jun
15
Carlos Xuma Alpha Masculinity Program
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As you may or may not know, my good friend Carlos Xuma recently released a spanking brand new program:
This program is all about:
- How to be a REAL authentic man in today’s world…
- How to stop being the nice guy all the time…
- How to be cool…
- How to be Naturally attractive to every woman you meet…
In other words, it’s essentially about MANHOOD - Being a REAL MAN – Not about pickup lines or techniques.
As always, I’ve pulled together information from just about every area of masculinity I could, researching dozens of books, pulling all the best tips and LIFE EXPERIENCE together in one priceless program for men.
Think about it: Guys are DESPERATE to find a mentor to show them the Way of the Alpha Man in today’s world.
The only way some of us ever learn about being a man is if you got lucky enough to have a strong male role model growing up, or years of being beaten up in the world trying to figure it out on your own…
… I had a little bit of both.
The program has a ton of examples and information on what TRUE masculinity and manhood is, how to build it, what to do – step by step. I included every facet of becoming a man anyone will ever need – in one program.
You can find out more about it here:
Carlos Xuma Alpha Masculinity Program
Oh and guess what?
Well, I just found out from Carlos that he’s sweetened the pot on his new Alpha Masculinity program even MORE.
He’s throwing in THREE more surprise bonuses for guys that order in the next 72 hours…
You’re not only going to get his Alpha Masculinity program AND the 13 bonuses he’s adding in, but he’s also going to throw in:
- An exclusive seminar with Lance Mason from Pickup 101 and Carlos on building strong Alpha Relationships with women so that you never have to worry about losing your woman after you finally get her…
- Another video on the 10 BIG Mistakes guys make in relationships, explaining the top 10 ways guys typically
mess up their relationships with quality women…
- Another video: A special “Attraction Map” seminar on Alpha Masculinity. That explains the 3 most important skills a woman needs you to have when you’re approaching or talking to her, what part of the “Bad Boy” really attracts women, and the essential beliefs of the “Natural” man that you have to mix with your own…
He’s gone WAY beyond what anyone ever expected in terms of giving value with this program.
So go take a look at this thing now:
Carlos Xuma Alpha Masculinity Program
Enjoy and let me know what you think!
Until next time…
Simon
Jun
10
Why Women Don’t Just Tell Men What They Want
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This was recently released by the guys at the Art Of The Pick-Up. It’s nicely written, check it out…
Is any of the following familiar to you?:
* You are interested in a girl and she seems to be interested in you. You get the courage to ask her out… but she makes an excuse or declines.
* You are talking to a girl and she tells you that she has a boyfriend, so you give up the thought of asking her out. Later you find out from a friend that the girl is actually single. Why did she tell you she had a boyfriend?
* You are on a date and no matter how well everything seems is going, you are not getting that feeling that she’s interested in you the way you’re interested in her. You are spending time in a nice place, having interesting conversations, but later even if you get the courage to make a move, she rejects it. She may even say outright that she’s “not ready” or “not looking for someone right now” (when you know for a fact that if a man she WAS interested in was right in front of her, she wouldn’t hesitate with HIM). She
seems to give you no indication of what she wants.
* You ask a girl what she’s looking for in a man. She tells you. It sounds exactly like you, but she doesn’t seem interested in you in “that” way. Why?
* You are in a situation where you’ve been pursuing a girl for quote some time, maybe even courting her, but no matter what you do, say, or try, she never seems to reciprocate the kind of interest in you as you have for her. You may even be direct enough to ask her why she’s not interested in you but she won’t say why orwhat she does say makes no sense at all.
I am not going to explain WHY women are the way they are.
It doesn’t matter, because what you really need to understand is how to READ them and determine what works and what doesn’t work.
Women almost never seem to be satisfied by the men they date or the majority of men who are interested in dating them.
Do you think it’s because those men truly aren’t up to par or maybe it’s because they simply don’t understand how to interpret what the women they’re interested in want and how to display those
characteristics?
Whenever a woman holds back on relaying to a man, any man, what she truly wants and what truly creates attraction in her, it could be one of 3 main reasons:
1. She thinks she’s telling the man what she wants, but she is only relaying what she consciously is looking for rather than what actually triggers her attraction and desires. She may at times make the active choice to follow her conscious “litmus test” but she will soon be unhappy with the choice, and seek another option.
2. She does know what gets her attracted and what gets her truly interested, but she decides to keep it to herself.
3. She doesn’t actually know what makes her attracted to any given man, she just “knows” and simply rejects the approaches of many men until one comes along that simply “does it” for her.
Do you know what’s great about those reasons? …
They don’t actually matter!
Most people don’t know how a TV works, either, but they do know that when the “ON” button is clicked on the remote the TV turns on.
We don’t need to understand how a picture tube works; we don’t need to understand infrared light, or what a cathode ray tube is.
All we need is for someone to show us where the remote is, how to pinpoint where the “ON” button is, how to click it, how to change channels, and increase/decrease the volume.
A TV can’t tell you how it works. It just does when you click the right buttons. Women are way more complex than TVs (and nicer!) but the concept is the same.
Women don’t come with instructions and they don’t WANT to come with instructions.
They don’t actually want to have to tell men how to attract them.
Sure, they will put on makeup, wear high heels, nice dresses, and spend hours and lots of money on their hair, but that is to attract as many men as possible in the first place in order to have a selection they can choose from.
Some women are so naturally beautiful that they avoid using too much makeup or over-doing the primping to avoid attracting too many men!
What women don’t need is a way to attract MORE men – they already have pretty much all that’s necessary and do what they can to optimize their fan base. What they need is a means to FILTER the
men who are attracted to them.
Imagine if every woman said “yes” to every man who ever approached her… OK, stop imagining Angelina Jolie saying “yes” to you… stay focused…
If every man knew how to attract every woman, this would be quite an over-populated planet and this newsletter would be called “The Art of Repulsing Men” and marketed to women!
So, you can see why women are not going to spell out what works for them, what stirs their attraction, even when they truly know. Some factors are universal to all women and many factors unique to each
woman.
No matter what the factor, a woman is not going to spoon-feed this information to any man who is interested in her.
Beyond the over-population issue, there is another factor involved.
When you read the last paragraph, you might have thought “But what if she’s already interested in the man who is approaching her? Isn’t it in her best interest to show or explain to him how to attract her?”
The answer to that is no.
How does she know this man is truly interested in her? How does she know the man is being forthright? How does she know that he’s really who he portrays himself to be? How does she know he’s not
dangerous or psychotic or might put her in harm’s way? The answer for her is to apply FILTERS.
Here is how a woman’s filtering process goes:
* She will not state or explain to a man what attracts her. If she does, it’s a façade to determine whether he will cater to the façade rather than maintain his integrity of who he truly is. Who he truly is may or may not attract you.
* She will observe his body language to determine how much he is in harmony with his own words. She can’t be attracted to a man who makes claims that don’t jive with his presence.
* She will observe how congruent he is from one moment to the next. If he acts too differently one moment to the next (in terms of personality not in predictability), then he’s not being congruent
with himself and she can’t be attracted to a man who may be putting on a façade. If this seems hypocritical, consider that men do it to get in women’s pants and women do it to avoid a man getting in
their pants who might cause them to feel “buyer’s remorse” later (or worse).
* She will talk in third-person contexts or relay stories of people she knows to see what the man’s real opinions are of things that may have more to do with her than the people in those stories.
* Immediate physical attraction aside, so long as a man doesn’t outright turn her off, and has interesting aspects to him, she will continue to interact with him long enough for something to “click”.
* Once enough time has passed where nothing has “happened”, she will presume he’s either not interested or doesn’t have the “right stuff” that makes her feel attracted and then no matter what happens after that the door is closed.
Even understanding this filtering process can help you quite a lot but, still…
How do you, as a man, determine WHAT a woman would truly be attracted to without expecting it all to be spelled out for you or to have a map drawn out for you? The ways to do it are:
*** Pay attention to the subtext of what a woman is saying.
If she’s talking about someone she knows in the third person OR any part of your intuition makes you feel like she’s talking about herself indirectly, then presume it’s meant to gauge your true opinion.
In that case, just acknowledge the story without sharing an opinion (keep her guessing) or (even better) turn the tables around on her by relating to the story through one of your own with a similar context.
For example if she says “I know this woman at work who’s hooked on an anti-depressant, she’s always worried that she’s messing up her life… do you think that hurts how attractive she is?”, you reply
with “That’s an interesting question, there’s this guy who lives near me that sounds just like her – what do you think?”
If she doesn’t want to answer, then change the subject.
If she answers readily, then you know the best way to answer.
*** Observe what she does, not what she says.
If a woman tells you she doesn’t like men who are dominant yet reacts more positively to you when you are dominant, then just ignore what she’s saying and continue to do what works.
The trick is to be more observant of her actions and not her words, if the context allows.
*** Understand women in general and what is attractive to them, in general, and stick to that regardless of what your friends, family, the media, or even women themselves tell you about what interests them.
*** Use women’s filtering tactics for yourself.
They may or may not know you are actively reversing their tactics but they will intuitively recognize that you are “filtering” them and not just catering to them to get in their pants like most men do.
Not only does this tactic help you understand their perspective and use it to your advantage, you will also increase your attractiveness to them by the mere act of doing so – because clearly only a man who would need to filter the women he interacts with is one who is chased by more women than he is interested in.
*** Initiate “tests” to or challenges to the woman that display you are aware of her coy subtext.
This one will take practice, and requires the vibe to be that of flirting rather than interrogation.
If a woman presents you with subtext that you know is a filtering ploy, then joke with her how obvious she’s being or how silly it is for her to be hitting on you like a piece of meat.
Obviously, this is not something that can be done just through words (you can’t read something like this and expect it to immediately work just by repeating the words) but if you understand what the vibe is meant to be and can maintain your congruence with it, then, by all means, use it to your advantage.
Jun
1
1) Understand that no experience comes labeled. You are the labeler.
The power to choose is yours! As William Shakespeare said, “Nothing is good or bad but thinking makes it so”. You and only you are the labeler of your experiences. Do you complain that roses have thorns or do you rejoice that thorns have roses? You have the ability to choose your reactions. All too often, these decisions to label are not done consciously and your internal dialog will slap on a negative label. You must be aware of this and change it immediately. Realizing your ability to label is an awesome power and a great step towards success. Upon taking control, you can select empowering labels in place of the negative ones. You are in control of the experience.
2) Avoid blaming yourself for making mistakes.
The road to success is always under construction. Every morning we awake to a day we have never seen or experienced. Mistakes will be made and obstacles will appear. You have no control over these events but you do control your reaction to them. It is important that we forgive ourselves for making mistakes. We need to learn from our errors and move on. It is when we hurt that we learn. The power to choose how much we learn is ours. Do you see a stumbling block or a stepping-stone? You decide.
3) Understand that like energies attract.
Like attracts like. Positive thoughts produce positive results. If you surround yourself in positive emotions, energies, thoughts, and people then positive events will be the end result. Unfortunately, the same is true if you surround yourself in negative energies. Do you know someone that is always negative and melancholy? Notice that bad luck seems to continuously follow them. They may say that a rain cloud is right above his or her head. Well, they’re right. And as soon as they realize that it is they who create that rain cloud they can chose to make it disappear. What you plant, so shall you harvest. If you plant rose seeds you get roses right? Plant seeds of happiness, hope, success, and love; it will all come back to you in abundance. This is the law of nature.
4) Determine what you want and act on it.
Imagine an archer that did not have a target to shoot his arrow at. He would fire his arrows aimlessly and would not be successful. Have a goal, write it down, and act upon that goal. Now that there is a clear target you can have a plan of action. A visible target it easier to hit. Nobody ever sat his or her way to success. It takes hard work, motivation, a positive attitude and a strong belief that you can do it. That combination produces what we call luck. Do not sit back and wait for life to happen to you. Have a plan and take the needed steps to create what you want.
5) Choose to feel happy.
It has been said “Act as if and you will become.” Try it. It really works. Put your chin up, smile, and think positive thoughts. Remember the happy times and notice all you have to be grateful for and you will feel lighter, happier and more empowered. If you frown, groan, grumble, and focus on everything wrong in the world you will feel down, lethargic and negative. Why bother with that? Identify the things and people that make you feel unhappy and eliminate them from your life. Nothing good can come from them. Choose to be happy and positive. Take steps to insure a more joyful and positive life. Do happy things; see positive movies, read good books, be around positive people, and practice affirmations. Identify the things and people that bring you happy feelings and surround yourself with them. Cultivate your relationship with yourself and you will be successful. Taking control of your life takes time and requires decisions. The rewards make the efforts worth it.
Print this post out, stick it in a place where you can face it every day.
You need to look at it EVERY DAY to make it work for you.
You must.
Must.
Now go do it!
Talk to you again soon…
Your buddy,
Simon Heong
Jun
1
The ‘Key’ To Becoming GREAT With Women
Filed Under Dating Advice, Dating Wizards, General Rants, Internet Dating | Leave a Comment
I’ve been doing coaching for as long as I can remember now, and it still amuses me to see how guys are still writing in, always asking & looking for that one special “trick” or “line” that would ultimately get them to “seal the deal” with the women their eye-ing for.
Of course it’s totally understandable for us as humans to crave for “quick-fixes”, as opposed to taking the traditional, much slower route of banging against the wall, making mistakes, learning from those mistakes, analyzing what went wrong, refining & then “sharpening” those skills to mastery.
But the reality of it is, whether you like it or not, mistakes are an ESSENTIAL part to accelerating your learning process.
As long as you’re trying something new, as long as you’re doing something you’ve never done before, there aill always be a possiblity for you to fumble and make mistakes.
You might get nervous, you might say the wrong things, you might get clumsy and do the wrong things and it’s OK.
Mistakes happen as you’re out of your comfort zone. It’s an annoyingly umcomfortable feeling at first, but that’s exactly how you expand your horizons and grow.
That’s how we as humans grow.
Getting rejected, banging your head on the wall, etc is something you MUST go through in order to get better at this game.
However you hate it, IT IS STILL A MUST!
… no shortcuts.
Now, as men OF COURSE it sucks getting rejected, blown off, made like a fool in front of the women we like when things don’t go our away.
“How could I be sooo stupid!”
It kills our egos, it burns our confidence, it shakes our self-belief, it sucks the life in us, the energy within us, makes us feel useless, powerless, and stupid sometimes… but you know what?
There are no mistakes. The events we bring upon ourselves, no matter how unpleasant, are necessary in order to learn what we need to learn; whatever steps we take, they’re necessary to reach the places we’ve chosen to go.
Mistakes are the BEST way to learn, it FORCES you to learn, it reminds you of the PAIN you went through and it makes you not want to go there… ever.
Ever.
So, go on, take chances, make mistakes. That’s how you grow. Pain nourishes your courage. You have to fail in order to practice being brave.
My personal life motto:
Dare to dream, dare to explore and dare to grow.
Think about it: If you don’t make mistakes, you don’t make anything.
So the next question that normally comes after this is “But I hate that feeling and I don’t ever want to go there… what it does is it kills us… and it’s not easy taking blows, one after another… it’s the aftermath, the dealing with it that’s the hardest…”
Yes, it’s true, it is DAMN hard… no one says life was fair, nor is it easy…
But here’s the thing: If you have made mistakes, there is always another chance for you. You may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing we call ‘failure’ is not the falling down, but the staying down.
A man’s errors are his portals of discovery.
Experience is the name every one gives to their mistakes.
Now, I’m not asking you to actively go out purposely looking for rejections, all I’m saying is that it DOES happen, you’ve got to be ready to face it when it does come and not run over to the corner, cry and complain that this isn’t what you’ve signed up for.
Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.
Do you want to be that guy?
I hope this posting helps.
I’ll talk to you again soon…
Your partner in crime…
Simon Heong