Mar
20
Adventures Of A Pick Up Artist
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I’d like to share a short post from Brad (Adventures Of A PUA)…
One of the best things I learned from PU was to stop thinking about what other people are doing, and concentrate on yourself. Stop thinking about how much everyone else is getting laid, and concentrate the success that you’re having. If you constantly compare yourself to others, you will constantly find ways in which you come up short.
One of the problems a lot of my students complain about is that they are not getting laid as much as their friends. This is ridiculous for a couple of reasons. Firstly, you have no real idea how much your friends are getting laid, and it’s highly probable that they will be talking up their sexual exploits rather than talking them down. Secondly, everyone around you has to deal with their own challenges and problems to succeed, and these may differ a great deal from your situation.
A rich and successful investment banker may feel jealous of a barman who appears to live a care free life with the luxury of time on his hands. Where as a barman may feel jealous of the banker who is rich and successful and has a structured life. The fact is, whatever you do, there will always be someone who is out performing you in some area, be it money, job satisfaction, or having more fun.
There is no point constantly comparing yourself to others as this is will never result in contentment. If you go out with a ‘10’ someone else will eventually come along with a more attractive girl on their arm, and all of a sudden your girl is less good looking by comparison. This shouldn’t bother you, and instead try to concentrate on the fact that you have a gorgeous girl on your arm without making it a competition.
Be content with yourself and what you’re doing, and don’t worry about how many women Russel Brand is bringing home every night, and don’t let ‘Nuts’ magazine convince you that everyone out there is having threesomes with impossibly good looking women. Concentrate on yourself and what you’re achieving. The best way of doing this is to record your progress, so that you can look back at where you were months or years ago, and feel content in how far you’ve come and what you’ve achieved.
Think about it…
Mar
13
How NOT To Approach Women
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If anything, this video is a great example of what men shouldn’t do to approach women:
Make sense?
What she’s going through is EXACTLY EVERYTHING that’s been talked about here, as you can see, it’s all about the APPLICATION.
Ok, so you already know what to do… just go out and DO it…
Later…
Mar
12
Carlos Xuma – How To Be An Alpha Male?
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Let’s start right off by saying that “Alpha” behavior is NOT bad.
There are a lot of guys out there sending conflicting information regarding what it is and isn’t to be “Alpha.” As in “Alpha Man” or “Alpha Male.”
Let’s start right off by saying that “Alpha” behavior is NOT bad.
It is NOT what you see animals doing in their nasty time in the zoo. It’s NOT attacking a tribe and killing all the young, or any weird stuff like that.
Look, “Alpha” just means the dominant male (and sometimes the female) in a group.
It’s the one that is most likely to procreate and get its genes into the next round of the “Keep the species alive” game.
So it really does make sense to get successful with women if you think about it like this. If you don’t find a woman to mate with and create little teeny versions of you, then it all ends with you.
Do you deserve to have your genetic legacy carried on into the next generation? I hope so. And more importantly, I hope you believe so.
So don’t listen to a lot of this garbage and double speak out there regarding “Alpha Men” and what they should or should not be.
Here are a few things an Alpha IS:
- Clever/smart/cunning
- Ambitious
- Excited
- Honorable
- Dominant (not aggressive, but demonstrating superior social skills)
- Stable
- Fit (healthy lifestyle)
- Curious
- Balanced
- Natural
Here are a few things an Alpha is NOT:
- Aggressive
- Angry at women
- Verbally abusive
- Arrogant
- Obnoxious
There seems to be some confusion (and most of it is created by other guys hoping to cash in on your confusion) about what it means to be a STRONG and persuasive man in today’s society.
I’m not even going to throw you more of that evolutionary stuff because it really doesn’t matter. When you think about it, it just makes sense that we want people who appear or demonstrate more social value than us. It’s because we naturally want to latch on to their power.
Again, it all comes back to power.
So being an “Alpha” doesn’t mean you’re dragging women back to a cave. Or that you’re being an aggressive, pushy jerk. Or that you’re being forceful and mean. Or that you’re inconsiderate. Or that you’re acting like a brutish animal.
It means that you understand the basic primal reasons a woman is attracted to a man, and you’re not afraid to BE a man. Not a cardboard, one-dimensional wimp that’s afraid to let women know he desires them.
You see, there are only two motivating forces in life: Desire and Fear.
That’s it. We are motivated purely by what we feel we WANT, and what we feel we most want to avoid.
Fear is a stronger motivator for humans because it helped us survive potentially life-threatening situations. You’re smart to fear wild animals, or large trains heading toward you. You can’t afford the luxury of analysis in these situations. A delay could cost you your life.
On the other hand, in our modern society, there isn’t much you need to fear. In fact, we fear too much already.
And the fear that is most crippling is the fear of LOSS.
Everyone’s favorite short green dude, Yoda, even said it in the latest Star Wars flick… “Fear of loss leads to the dark side.”
And so it does. It leads you down a path where you never gain because you’re too afraid of losing what you have.
An Alpha Man understands that the only way to live is to wake up each day and understand that everything you have was just given back to you today. And when he goes to sleep at night, he gives it all back.
Lose this attraction to your possessions before they possess you…
Whoah, I’m getting very philosophical here.
What I’m trying to get across to you here is that you should avoid becoming attached, even to TERMINOLOGY.
When someone tells you that being an Alpha is bad, or it’s this and that, remember that they’re trying to color your perception. They’re trying to steer you away from a path of understanding and enlightenment.
Trust your own intelligence to figure out what an Alpha Man REALLY is.
He’s already inside of you. It just takes a little work to let this instinct out so that you can become the COMPLETE you.
There are a lot of guys out there who haven’t been able to open themselves up to letting out this TRUE nature inside them. They hide it behind “Politically Correct” BS about not hurting other people’s feelings, or being sensitive.
It’s really a fear to let other people see the REAL you. The man that wants to achieve. The man that wants women in his life. The man that wants monetary success. The man that wants power over the forces of life that seem to control him.
Forget about all this “Alpha” talk and just open your mind up to finding this part of you that isn’t held back by fear, and is ready to reach out for understanding that could – and will – change your life for the better.
So on one hand we have the lowly AFC, or non-Alpha. He’s a little insecure, possibly low self-esteem, but WANTS to grow and change.
On the other hand we have the Alpha, the confident and assertive man with healthy communication and self-esteem.
There is only one direction of growth here, and it’s from the AFC to the Alpha. And what is the Alpha? He’s a MODEL.
He’s what YOU need to be.
If you want to learn more about this, click here. It’s pretty good stuff 
Talk to you soon,
Simon Heong
Mar
3
How To Turn Your Friend Into A Girlfriend
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Guys are constantly wondering, what is ‘the secret’ to turning a platonic friend to be your girlfriend?
Look around and you can see it happening all the time; well-meaning, good and caring guys with the best intentions in the world for a girl he likes, but somehow ends up being placed in the ‘friend zone’ no matter how hard he tries.
If you want to turn a friend to be your girlfriend, a big part of doing it right, getting them to successfully ‘turn’ over is to first know what they really need.
Notice, we didn’t say what women WANT.
Because what they SAY they want, and what they actually NEED, are two different things. (This is an important concept to remember if you want to know how to turn a friend into something more).
We’ve been led to believe that women want a nice, safe, sensitive “metrosexual” guy. A guy who is in touch with his feminine side, and is a friend first and a lover second.
And of course, the media tell us that an “attractive” guy is also supposed to make a lot money, stay in great shape, spoil his girlfriend with attention, and be completely available to her every time she needs to complain about something.
Well, here’s the big secret…
What women NEED… on a core, biological level… is a whole different set of qualities.
Women are programmed to DESPISE weak men. The most important female need is to feel SAFE, and a weak man is never going to be able to make her feel this way.
When you constantly defer to a woman and let HER run the relationship, you might think you’re being a “good boyfriend.”
But you’re actually screwing up the relationship and TURNING HER OFF.
To turn a friend to be your girlfriend, you have to first stop playing “wuss” in your interactions with her. (You know what a “wuss” is, right? It’s a combination of the words “wimp” and another word that starts with P and ends with Y.)
This is situation MANY guys get into. We call it the “vicious cycle.”
A guy starts dating a girl, and she begins to make demands.
The demands are small at first: always answer when she calls your cell phone.
Spend time with her instead of watching the football game.
Be available to talk to her and see her whenever she wants, even if you’re busy with work or other friends.
Over time, the demands sometimes get bigger: get a better job, don’t hang out with your single buddies because they’re a bad influence, etc.
Eventually, they get married… and that’s when the demands become major. She wants a bigger house, a nicer car, a child or two (even though you don’t feel ready.)
Most guys accept these demands as part of the relationship, and they go along with her demands to avoid having arguments. (This is one of the reasons why they get placed into the friend zone).
(Download and watch these videos for more techniques on how to get a woman to CHANGE HER MIND and see you as a SEXUAL BEING and not “just a friend”):
How To Turn A Friend To Be Your Girlfriend
You would THINK that she would appreciate this. After all, you are always making the effort to please her!
But it actually has the opposite effect. She becomes annoyed by the fact that he won’t show a backbone. So she keeps making more and more demands, nagging the guy, henpecking him and controlling every area of his life.
Subconsciously, she’s trying to FORCE him to show his Alpha side.
But most guys never do. They just get beaten down and “whipped.”
You see, women, in their hearts, don’t want a guy who always defers to her and agrees with her. This type of guy radiates WEAKNESS, and a woman is never going to feel safe and secure in a relationship with a weak guy.
She has a core need to be with an Alpha Man.
She might SAY she wants a “nice guy”… the sweet, caring type who brings her flowers, provides a shoulder to cry on, and jumps through any hoop she puts in front of him.
But she has an inner NEED to be with a Alpha Man.
A guy who LEADS and MAKES DECISIONS.
When she goes through one of her emotional hissy fits, she needs an Alpha Man who will be FIRM and calm her down.
You can be the sweetest, kindest guy in the world…faithfully bringing home a paycheck… but if you’re a wuss, your woman is actually going to RESENT you for it.
Women are wired to want to be with Alpha Men. They need the sense of stability, security and strength that an Alpha Man provides.
And we’re not talking about physical strength… showing EMOTIONAL strength is far more important, and hugely attractive to women.
She wants a MAN who makes her feel comfortable being the WOMAN. (If you want to get out of the friend zone, remember this).
You CAN be a nice, laidback, respectful dude… and you should be. But you’ve got to have a strong, decisive Alpha core that makes women feel safe and protected.
You can be rich, and have movie-star looks, and all those other qualities that are supposed to be “attractive.”
But take our word for it: until you make your personal Alpha transformation, you’re going to find yourself in unfulfilling relationships with women who will eventually LEAVE you (or drive your crazy with their demands!)
Stop worrying about what women want. Learn what they NEED, and BECOME THAT GUY.
If you find yourself stuck in the dreaded “friend zone” and you’re desperately looking for a way to get out of it, get back IN the game and turn her to be YOUR girlfriend, you should check these videos out:
How To Turn A Friend To Be Your Girlfriend
Mar
2
How To Get your Ex Back – Is It Just A Game?
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I don’t freakin’ get it?!! Why do some people find it so difficult to just move on and let go… Are you one of them?
Ok, ok.. let me phrase it right… Are you the type who can’t seem to get over a break up with your girl and is desperate enough to do whatever it takes (however crazy) to get her back?
I don’t know…
Maybe your sitting around, sulking, and asking…does my ex want me back? Well, are they spending more time with you right now or are they more interested than before in going out with you again? Even more of a giveaway…are they flirting with you again all of a sudden?
These are all signs and possible answers to your question does my ex want to get back with me? But we’re here to tell you to be careful and under no circumstances jump the gun. Think back to when you were together and why you broke up. Was it one sided? We’re you the one spurned? Was it you ex?
The worst thing you can do even if you want to get back with your ex is to jump straight back in without assessing the situation and being just a little curious as to why you are suddenly getting this attention again.
Does My Ex Want To Get Back Together With Me?
Okay, let’s look at some of the reasons why looking before you leap is a good idea despite all your feelings telling you to go for it.
1. Play a little hard to get at first. You don’t want to give them the impression you are a desperate with no prospects and you’ll take anything that comes along. Time to show that ol’ pride here and if they want you then they are going to have to work a little.
2. You’ll need to play hard to get in moderation though because this is what your ex will most likely respond to.
3. If you jump in hard and fast and get back together with them at the first sign of an invitation then you’ll more than likely come across needy and desperate and your ex will most likely be put off by this and start pushing you back again. Can you see the reasoning here?
4. It’s quite likely that the renewed interest has come simply from the fact that you were playing hard to get anyway so make them earn it and keep them curious. This is a powerful attraction factor but as we said earlier, it needs a little moderation.
5. Another thing to consider is that when people break up, there is a definite period after the dust has settled of either persons starting to miss each other. This could simply be the phase they are going through now.
6. If the break up has been any length of time then this missing each other phase is natural simply because of the good memories you shared. But beware, there are probably some bad times which may have been forgotten in transit and the real reason why you broke up in the first place will have been forgotten. When these surface, especially when you are about to get back together, then there is a strong chance that your ex is thinking about them too.
The Magic Of Making Up is a collection of techniques and strategies for men and women and a refreshing breath of air in the art of how to get your ex back.
You can check it out and download a copy of it here if you like: