Feb
25
The Death Of Pick Up?
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Well said… From Neil Strauss, Best-Selling Author “The Game: Penetrating The Secret Society Of Pick Up Artists”
In the last week, two more prime-time scripted television shows ripped off The Game and Mystery’s techniques.
And of course perverted the message of the whole thing.
For those who haven’t been keeping score, last year, CSI Miami aired an episode about pickup artists with rival workshops, an undercover reporter infiltrating them, and murderous results.
Then there was Twins (the Sara Gilbert show), in which Gilbert’s nerdy high school friend returns transformed after having written a book about picking up women using techniques like negs.
And on a recent Ugly Betty episode, she interviews the writer of a book called Tap That: How to Score With Hot Bitches, which advocates the A.S.S. approach to meeting women (Approach, Subdue, Score).
TV writers seem especially fond of using use pua jargon like neg and peacocking, which one of us should probably get the Oxford English dictionary to include.
Anyway, I thought TV writers had their fill of The Game after these shows.
But then, the other week, on Big Bang Theory, one of the nerds, Howard, decides to try peacocking and negs, and strikes out miserably.
And then last week, on Criminal Minds, investigators chase after a man who’s taken a pickup workshop with a Mystery clone named Raven, and is now seducing and murdering innocent clubgoing women.
Do you sense a theme here?
It’s that the game is for creeps, losers, and killers.
And this kinda pisses me off.
Why?
Because it shames men out of seeking help for their issues. Help that could bring them out out of their social shells. Help that could make them much happier with themselves. Help that will, for most of them, lead at some point to marriage and children – and, in the meantime, lead to new experiences and friendships, not to mention some fun, consensual late nights.
The truth is, from the thousands upon thousands of successful AND botched pickups I’ve witnessed: The game poses a far greater threat to the guy than to the girl. And not one TV show has captured this.
The real victims of the game are the guys who get so into it, they lose themselves. They lose the things that are special about them as individuals, they lose their direction in life, they lose their ability to relate normally to people.
And that is a minority of guys. Most are smart enough to get it, and blossom into amazingly cool, fun, successful guys.
When it comes to violence in society, which these shows love to attribute to PUAs as an exciting plot twist, if you read the news, some of the most shocking crimes in society have been caused by men who have pent-up sexual desires but have either been rejected or just have no way to attain them. So they grow dark and bitter and hateful, and eventually lash out.
Other instances of violence (like school shootings and suicides) have been caused by people who felt like social outcasts. And other instances (like domestic abuse) stem from an attempt to take control over the victim.
(Of course, some people are just crazy, fucked-up sociopaths.)
The point is: when taught and learned correctly, the game socializes men.
And the more socialized people we have in this world, the less anti-social behavior we’ll see.
If fewer people feel powerless around and invalidated by others, than fewer people will resort to trying to get what they believe to be the upper hand through violence
So, rather than leading to more violence in the world, the game is at least a step toward leading guys to seek help with their issues and pointing to other attainable solutions.
Because the game is not about wearing a funny hat and insulting women.
It’s about becoming your best self and making the best possible first impression you can. It’s about understanding the rules that people use to make social and sexual and professional choices and alliances, and working effectively within that system.
It’s about attracting others by learning to master yourself, rather than trying to control them. And it’s also about having fun when you go out, rather than cowering timidly in the corner.
Though the seduction community has its faults and shortcomings, I often think about what my life would have been like if I never discovered it. And I would have died having missed out on so much of life, because I was so scared and timid and uncomfortable and mute around women and strangers.
And what worries me about these shows is that, psychologically, they make guys who feel socially ostracized feel even MORE ostracized and ashamed for trying to do something to change it.
So, in conclusion, we’re all going to have to band together and change the tide on this in television dramas and sitcoms. (Thanks to VH1, at least this is getting a better depiction on the reality show front.) Maybe we can make a show about a crime-solving team of pickup artists, who use their social skills to make connections and get information from people.
Or maybe not.
But at least we can all do our part in encouraging anyone – male or female – to take whatever positive steps are necessary towards becoming a better, more attractive, more successful person who’s
fully and fearlessly engaged in life.
Feb
22
How To Make Money Online
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You know… just looking at the current economic gloom and doom that’s all around the papers and the media these days, it can get a little depressing. With massive layoffs, uncertainty, slowing demand everywhere, etc, there’s no denying that times are tough…
And that’s why I’ve decided to side-track from dating for a while and share with you something which I believe will help *ease* your “burdens” if you’re looking for additional ways to generate an additional stream of income.
One of the easiest and best ways to start making a nice stream of side income is through the internet.
Now, if you have been marketing on the Internet for any length of time, chances are you have heard of Derek Gehl. Derek is one of the most successful REAL-LIFE Internet marketing experts online today.
I have learned more about the hard-hitting Internet marketing strategies that really work directly from Derek and his team than any other so-called Internet marketing expert. So when I saw this idea from Derek, it only took me a few minutes before I was once again amazed by the POWERFUL STRATEGIES he had uncovered.
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Derek. introduces you to people just like you and me — real people who are making real money on the Internet — and shows you the exact strategies they have used to generate incomes in excess of $100,000 to $600,000 online every year… most of them working from home!
I was in his private site just yesterday, and even though I’ve personally been marketing on the `Net for quite some time, I learned some killer new tricks from people like…
- Robert who turned his $275 a week paycheck into a site of online investigative resources that takes him only 2 hours each day to run… while earning him OVER $250,000 A YEAR in profits!
- Ellen, a work-at-home mom who generates a great income by simply selling her homemade soaps from her site!
- Ken who made $300,000+ IN HIS SECOND YEAR OF BUSINESS by teaching people how to daytrade on the Internet… all from his beachfront condo in Hawaii.
- Andy, who makes $600,000 a year educating others about the hairloss industry and showing people how he managed to reverse his own hairloss!
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So if you want to skip the failing promotions and get a personal tour of REAL WEB SITES built by REAL PEOPLE making REAL PROFITS on the Internet, then go to…
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Who knows, maybe with this little step of yours, you’ll be able to get one of these babies one day… “Mama always says, you never know what’s gonna come next” 
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Until next time…
Simon Heong
Feb
19
How To Handle Rejection From A Woman
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As we go about our daily lives meeting people (women esp), we are bound to meet “resistance” in one way or another…
Like I always mentioned here in our newsletters, whenever you get rejected by a woman because of what you did (or did not do), NEVER take it personally.
Understand that sometimes, you’re just not her type. In our Friend to Girlfriend Secrets Program, I talked a WHOLE LOT about this concept of specific archtypes. So when it comes to handling rejection from a woman, just take it in your stride and move on.
MOVE ON damnit!
Guys always have this problem os sitting down, crying and whining when a girl rejects them… Well, don’t!
Consider rejections as small little “obstacles” in your path
towards getting your ultimate dream girl.
Take your pick of the following notes, choose the best and DRILL the mother fu^ker into your brain as you’re out living life.
(It applies to overcoming obstacles in ANY area of your life):
Robert H. Schuller
Press on. Obstacles are seldom the same size tomorrow as they are today.
Orison Swett Marden
Most of our obstacles would melt away if, instead of cowering before them, we should make up our minds to walk boldly through them.
Marsha Sinetar
Life’s up and downs provide windows of opportunity to determine your values and goals. Think of using all obstacles as stepping stones to build the life you want.
Frank A. Clark
If you find a path with no obstacles, it probably doesn’t lead anywhere.
Eric Hoffer
It still holds true that man is most uniquely human when he turns obstacles into opportunities.
B. C. Forbes
History has demonstrated that the most notable winners usually encountered heartbreaking obstacles before they triumphed. They won because they refused to become discouraged by their defeats.
Robert H. Schuller
For every mountain there is a miracle.
Norman Vincent Peale
Stand up to your obstacles and do something about them. You will find that they haven’t half the strength you think they have.
Orison Swett Marden
Obstacles will look large or small to you according to whether you are large or small.
Maxwell Maltz
We are built to conquer environment, solve problems, achieve goals, and we find no real satisfaction or happiness in life without obstacles to conquer and goals to achieve.
Until next time…
Simon Heong
Feb
18
Randy Jackson Predicts Next ‘American Idol’ Winner Will Be A Guy
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Let’s sidetrack from dating a while, shall we?
You know, I was sitting around watching one of my favorite shows “American Idol” a while ago, when I suddenly stumbled upon this:
Randy Jackson Predicts Next ‘American Idol’ Winner Will Be A Guy’. “These kids are different than any other season we’ve had, and I think these boys are some of the most talented we’ve ever had,” judge tells AOL.
“We say it every season, but I’m not kidding you,” he told AOL. “This is the eighth season of the show. People have seen every other brand of artist. But these kids are different than any other season we’ve had, and I think these boys are some of the most talented we’ve ever had.”
Last season, David Cook managed to win the hearts of Americans, and Jackson, like Simon Cowell and Paula Abdul, said he thinks that once again a male singer will charm viewers and win the contest.
“I said it before them, and you can quote me. I was the first to say that,” he said with a laugh. “I just think for some reason this year … the boys are just on a whole ‘nother level. I mean, there are some great girls as well. But we’ll see who goes through the ranks, because there’s a lot more show to go before we get to the end.”
Hmm.. maybe he’s right… hell what do I know?
Or maybe… just maybe.. was he talking about American Idol hopeful Danny Gokey? This dude’s got what I call the “Archuleta” factor.. his voice is amazing man, come on!
Just check out his rendition of “I Hope You Dance” by Lee Ann Womack during the 2nd round of Hollywood Auditions:
I personally thought he sang MUCH better than his “Hero” performance tonight on American Idol…
What say you?
Damn I’m addicted to this show…!!
Oh which reminds me, since we’re talkin music, check out this cool new acoustic Mraz – “I’m Yours” video I found 
Enjoy!
Feb
17
Transformers 2: Official Trailer – Revenge Of The Fallen
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Oh my god! Despite the economic mumbo jumbo that’s happening around us (we’ve got to stop watching tv and reading the papers, the way the media is making out everything…it’s sooo freakin’ depressing, no??!), there’s STILL cause for celebration!
Definitely one of the most anticipated films of 2009… my favorite movie since I was 9 and will FOREVER be (even if they actually did screw the movie up in the later series):
I don’t get it… how could SOME people not like the show??! (Yes, I do have several wierdo friends who thought the show was “just” ok!)
And obviously comes my next best favorite – Fast and The Furious 4:
I’m sitting here wondering how they’d be be able to top Fast And Furious 3: Tokyo Raiders (awesome!).
Oooh I’m soooo giggling with glee now… ***evil laugh***
Can’t wait! Ok later dudes,
Simon Heong