Mar
20
Adventures Of A Pick Up Artist
Filed Under Dating Advice, Dating Wizards, General Rants, Internet Dating, New Products, News | Leave a Comment
I’d like to share a short post from Brad (Adventures Of A PUA)…
One of the best things I learned from PU was to stop thinking about what other people are doing, and concentrate on yourself. Stop thinking about how much everyone else is getting laid, and concentrate the success that you’re having. If you constantly compare yourself to others, you will constantly find ways in which you come up short.
One of the problems a lot of my students complain about is that they are not getting laid as much as their friends. This is ridiculous for a couple of reasons. Firstly, you have no real idea how much your friends are getting laid, and it’s highly probable that they will be talking up their sexual exploits rather than talking them down. Secondly, everyone around you has to deal with their own challenges and problems to succeed, and these may differ a great deal from your situation.
A rich and successful investment banker may feel jealous of a barman who appears to live a care free life with the luxury of time on his hands. Where as a barman may feel jealous of the banker who is rich and successful and has a structured life. The fact is, whatever you do, there will always be someone who is out performing you in some area, be it money, job satisfaction, or having more fun.
There is no point constantly comparing yourself to others as this is will never result in contentment. If you go out with a ‘10’ someone else will eventually come along with a more attractive girl on their arm, and all of a sudden your girl is less good looking by comparison. This shouldn’t bother you, and instead try to concentrate on the fact that you have a gorgeous girl on your arm without making it a competition.
Be content with yourself and what you’re doing, and don’t worry about how many women Russel Brand is bringing home every night, and don’t let ‘Nuts’ magazine convince you that everyone out there is having threesomes with impossibly good looking women. Concentrate on yourself and what you’re achieving. The best way of doing this is to record your progress, so that you can look back at where you were months or years ago, and feel content in how far you’ve come and what you’ve achieved.
Think about it…
Mar
13
How NOT To Approach Women
Filed Under Dating Advice, Dating Wizards, New Products | Leave a Comment
If anything, this video is a great example of what men shouldn’t do to approach women:
Make sense?
What she’s going through is EXACTLY EVERYTHING that’s been talked about here, as you can see, it’s all about the APPLICATION.
Ok, so you already know what to do… just go out and DO it…
Later…
Mar
12
Carlos Xuma – How To Be An Alpha Male?
Filed Under Dating Advice, Dating Wizards, New Products, News | Leave a Comment
Let’s start right off by saying that “Alpha” behavior is NOT bad.
There are a lot of guys out there sending conflicting information regarding what it is and isn’t to be “Alpha.” As in “Alpha Man” or “Alpha Male.”
Let’s start right off by saying that “Alpha” behavior is NOT bad.
It is NOT what you see animals doing in their nasty time in the zoo. It’s NOT attacking a tribe and killing all the young, or any weird stuff like that.
Look, “Alpha” just means the dominant male (and sometimes the female) in a group.
It’s the one that is most likely to procreate and get its genes into the next round of the “Keep the species alive” game.
So it really does make sense to get successful with women if you think about it like this. If you don’t find a woman to mate with and create little teeny versions of you, then it all ends with you.
Do you deserve to have your genetic legacy carried on into the next generation? I hope so. And more importantly, I hope you believe so.
So don’t listen to a lot of this garbage and double speak out there regarding “Alpha Men” and what they should or should not be.
Here are a few things an Alpha IS:
- Clever/smart/cunning
- Ambitious
- Excited
- Honorable
- Dominant (not aggressive, but demonstrating superior social skills)
- Stable
- Fit (healthy lifestyle)
- Curious
- Balanced
- Natural
Here are a few things an Alpha is NOT:
- Aggressive
- Angry at women
- Verbally abusive
- Arrogant
- Obnoxious
There seems to be some confusion (and most of it is created by other guys hoping to cash in on your confusion) about what it means to be a STRONG and persuasive man in today’s society.
I’m not even going to throw you more of that evolutionary stuff because it really doesn’t matter. When you think about it, it just makes sense that we want people who appear or demonstrate more social value than us. It’s because we naturally want to latch on to their power.
Again, it all comes back to power.
So being an “Alpha” doesn’t mean you’re dragging women back to a cave. Or that you’re being an aggressive, pushy jerk. Or that you’re being forceful and mean. Or that you’re inconsiderate. Or that you’re acting like a brutish animal.
It means that you understand the basic primal reasons a woman is attracted to a man, and you’re not afraid to BE a man. Not a cardboard, one-dimensional wimp that’s afraid to let women know he desires them.
You see, there are only two motivating forces in life: Desire and Fear.
That’s it. We are motivated purely by what we feel we WANT, and what we feel we most want to avoid.
Fear is a stronger motivator for humans because it helped us survive potentially life-threatening situations. You’re smart to fear wild animals, or large trains heading toward you. You can’t afford the luxury of analysis in these situations. A delay could cost you your life.
On the other hand, in our modern society, there isn’t much you need to fear. In fact, we fear too much already.
And the fear that is most crippling is the fear of LOSS.
Everyone’s favorite short green dude, Yoda, even said it in the latest Star Wars flick… “Fear of loss leads to the dark side.”
And so it does. It leads you down a path where you never gain because you’re too afraid of losing what you have.
An Alpha Man understands that the only way to live is to wake up each day and understand that everything you have was just given back to you today. And when he goes to sleep at night, he gives it all back.
Lose this attraction to your possessions before they possess you…
Whoah, I’m getting very philosophical here.
What I’m trying to get across to you here is that you should avoid becoming attached, even to TERMINOLOGY.
When someone tells you that being an Alpha is bad, or it’s this and that, remember that they’re trying to color your perception. They’re trying to steer you away from a path of understanding and enlightenment.
Trust your own intelligence to figure out what an Alpha Man REALLY is.
He’s already inside of you. It just takes a little work to let this instinct out so that you can become the COMPLETE you.
There are a lot of guys out there who haven’t been able to open themselves up to letting out this TRUE nature inside them. They hide it behind “Politically Correct” BS about not hurting other people’s feelings, or being sensitive.
It’s really a fear to let other people see the REAL you. The man that wants to achieve. The man that wants women in his life. The man that wants monetary success. The man that wants power over the forces of life that seem to control him.
Forget about all this “Alpha” talk and just open your mind up to finding this part of you that isn’t held back by fear, and is ready to reach out for understanding that could – and will – change your life for the better.
So on one hand we have the lowly AFC, or non-Alpha. He’s a little insecure, possibly low self-esteem, but WANTS to grow and change.
On the other hand we have the Alpha, the confident and assertive man with healthy communication and self-esteem.
There is only one direction of growth here, and it’s from the AFC to the Alpha. And what is the Alpha? He’s a MODEL.
He’s what YOU need to be.
If you want to learn more about this, click here. It’s pretty good stuff 
Talk to you soon,
Simon Heong
Mar
3
How To Turn Your Friend Into A Girlfriend
Filed Under Dating Advice, Dating Wizards, New Products, News | Leave a Comment
Guys are constantly wondering, what is ‘the secret’ to turning a platonic friend to be your girlfriend?
Look around and you can see it happening all the time; well-meaning, good and caring guys with the best intentions in the world for a girl he likes, but somehow ends up being placed in the ‘friend zone’ no matter how hard he tries.
If you want to turn a friend to be your girlfriend, a big part of doing it right, getting them to successfully ‘turn’ over is to first know what they really need.
Notice, we didn’t say what women WANT.
Because what they SAY they want, and what they actually NEED, are two different things. (This is an important concept to remember if you want to know how to turn a friend into something more).
We’ve been led to believe that women want a nice, safe, sensitive “metrosexual” guy. A guy who is in touch with his feminine side, and is a friend first and a lover second.
And of course, the media tell us that an “attractive” guy is also supposed to make a lot money, stay in great shape, spoil his girlfriend with attention, and be completely available to her every time she needs to complain about something.
Well, here’s the big secret…
What women NEED… on a core, biological level… is a whole different set of qualities.
Women are programmed to DESPISE weak men. The most important female need is to feel SAFE, and a weak man is never going to be able to make her feel this way.
When you constantly defer to a woman and let HER run the relationship, you might think you’re being a “good boyfriend.”
But you’re actually screwing up the relationship and TURNING HER OFF.
To turn a friend to be your girlfriend, you have to first stop playing “wuss” in your interactions with her. (You know what a “wuss” is, right? It’s a combination of the words “wimp” and another word that starts with P and ends with Y.)
This is situation MANY guys get into. We call it the “vicious cycle.”
A guy starts dating a girl, and she begins to make demands.
The demands are small at first: always answer when she calls your cell phone.
Spend time with her instead of watching the football game.
Be available to talk to her and see her whenever she wants, even if you’re busy with work or other friends.
Over time, the demands sometimes get bigger: get a better job, don’t hang out with your single buddies because they’re a bad influence, etc.
Eventually, they get married… and that’s when the demands become major. She wants a bigger house, a nicer car, a child or two (even though you don’t feel ready.)
Most guys accept these demands as part of the relationship, and they go along with her demands to avoid having arguments. (This is one of the reasons why they get placed into the friend zone).
(Download and watch these videos for more techniques on how to get a woman to CHANGE HER MIND and see you as a SEXUAL BEING and not “just a friend”):
How To Turn A Friend To Be Your Girlfriend
You would THINK that she would appreciate this. After all, you are always making the effort to please her!
But it actually has the opposite effect. She becomes annoyed by the fact that he won’t show a backbone. So she keeps making more and more demands, nagging the guy, henpecking him and controlling every area of his life.
Subconsciously, she’s trying to FORCE him to show his Alpha side.
But most guys never do. They just get beaten down and “whipped.”
You see, women, in their hearts, don’t want a guy who always defers to her and agrees with her. This type of guy radiates WEAKNESS, and a woman is never going to feel safe and secure in a relationship with a weak guy.
She has a core need to be with an Alpha Man.
She might SAY she wants a “nice guy”… the sweet, caring type who brings her flowers, provides a shoulder to cry on, and jumps through any hoop she puts in front of him.
But she has an inner NEED to be with a Alpha Man.
A guy who LEADS and MAKES DECISIONS.
When she goes through one of her emotional hissy fits, she needs an Alpha Man who will be FIRM and calm her down.
You can be the sweetest, kindest guy in the world…faithfully bringing home a paycheck… but if you’re a wuss, your woman is actually going to RESENT you for it.
Women are wired to want to be with Alpha Men. They need the sense of stability, security and strength that an Alpha Man provides.
And we’re not talking about physical strength… showing EMOTIONAL strength is far more important, and hugely attractive to women.
She wants a MAN who makes her feel comfortable being the WOMAN. (If you want to get out of the friend zone, remember this).
You CAN be a nice, laidback, respectful dude… and you should be. But you’ve got to have a strong, decisive Alpha core that makes women feel safe and protected.
You can be rich, and have movie-star looks, and all those other qualities that are supposed to be “attractive.”
But take our word for it: until you make your personal Alpha transformation, you’re going to find yourself in unfulfilling relationships with women who will eventually LEAVE you (or drive your crazy with their demands!)
Stop worrying about what women want. Learn what they NEED, and BECOME THAT GUY.
If you find yourself stuck in the dreaded “friend zone” and you’re desperately looking for a way to get out of it, get back IN the game and turn her to be YOUR girlfriend, you should check these videos out:
How To Turn A Friend To Be Your Girlfriend
Feb
14
How To Pick Up Strippers
Filed Under Dating Advice, Dating Wizards, General Rants, New Products, News | Leave a Comment
I’m going to cover something a little different today.
Seems that I’ve been getting a number of questions from you guys wondering whether the “stuff” that you’ve learned here works on the super hot 9s and 10s: dancers, strippers, etc…
So I thought I’d take a minute to answer a few common questions… and to give you some ideas about how to tweak the stuff you’ve learned here with “those” types of women…
Now…
Imagine an environment where you’re surrounded by stunning, highly sexual, practically naked women. The booze is flowing, the music is pumping, and every one of them wants to talk to YOU.
Welcome to the strip club.
Most guys who set foot inside these “flesh palaces” are content to be customers, forking over their cash for cock-teasing lap dances and pointless conversations with women who view them as human ATM machines.
If you’ve got game, however, view strip clubs are target-rich environments filled with sexy, available women. They’re also a great place to hone your skills and become comfortable flirting with 9’s and 10’s (the most physically attractive women) in other settings.
Sure, strippers are looking to get your money.
It’s their job.
This is why you’ve got to flip the script, cause them to stop perceiving you as a customer, and make them play YOUR game instead of playing theirs:
Put the right tactics to work, and you can build connections, collect phone numbers, and set up dates just as you would at a bar.
Here are my top ten tips for strip club success:
1. Go in with the right mindset: you’re way more interesting and confident than 99% of the customers who come to this place. Strippers spend most of their shift having tedious conversations with lame, predictable men.
Once you’ve demonstrated otherwise, she’ll be pleasantly surprised to meet you.
2. When you enter the club, walk around with your head held high, like you own the place. Never lurk or mill around as if you’re unsure of where to sit. Find a seat and settle in, preferably near a speaker. (I’ll explain why in a moment.)
3. When a hot stripper approaches you, don’t let her sit on your lap. Make her sit beside you. (“Whoa, easy there! Have a seat next to me until we get to know each other a little better.”)
Also, don’t agree if she immediately offers a dance. (“Are you sure you can afford me? I charge $100 for three songs, and no touching below the belt.”) Instead, engage her in conversation and control the flow. If you’re sitting near a speaker, tell you “let’s move somewhere quieter, I want to be able to hear you.” This shows you value what she has to say, and gives it the feel like a “mini date”: you’re taking her somewhere, even if it’s just to the other side of the room.
4. Keep your eyes off of her body and maintain eye contact. Never comment on how good she looks; if anything, call her “cute.” (“Wow. Not only are you the cutest girl here, but you can actually hold an intelligent conversation.”)
5. Break her out of her routine. Dancers, like salesmen, have canned routines that they use to make customers feel comfortable and ready to spend money.
When she asks you your name, or where you’re from, ignore it.
Go into your OWN routine and control the conversation. The idea is to get her out of “work mode” and into “chat mode.”
6. Be respectful of her profession. Never refer to it as “stripping”; the term to use for her is “dancer.” Say (or imply) that you’ve dated dancers before and demonstrate familiarity with her profession.
“It’s too bad I swore off dating dancers, because I can tell you and I would get along. I get the sense there’s a lot more to you than meets the eye.”
Or, “I know you’ve got some funny stories from working here. My ex used to tell me about the weirdo customers she had to deal with…”
7. Befriend the staff: bouncers, coat check, bus boys, DJs, managers, owner, etc. When you visit, staff members should know and greet you.
This gives you high social value in the eyes of the dancers; you’re not a typical customer.
Befriending a male staff member is easy: say, “Dude, you’re the envy of every guy—hanging out in a club full of beautiful, half-naked women and getting paid for it.
You make me want to consider a career change. By the way, my name’s ______.”
8. Don’t forget, she’s there to make money. Go on slow nights when there aren’t a lot of customers vying for her attention.
After you’ve been chatting for a little while, it’s okay to buy a dance from her—but a minute or two into the song, tell her she can sit back down, and resume the conversation. (Again, always behave like a non customer.)
9. During the conversation, apply the same Tactics you would use on women in a bar. Ask her questions that prompt her to reveal quirky things about herself.
Use Hypotheticals, i.e., “If you could teleport right now to anywhere in the world, where would you go?” Or, “If you won the lottery tomorrow and never had to work again, how would you spend your time?” (These are CLEARLY explained in my Persuasion Program).
*** If you HAVEN’T grabbed it yet, and you’re STILL allowing women to play their silly little games with you, I want you to give this a quick look ***:
Conversation & Persuasion Tips With Women
Here’s another good one: “Tell me something about yourself that the customers in here would never suspect.”
Also, you’ve got to be cocky and playful. Never act impressed. Never comment on her beauty. Frame the conversation as if you ALREADY KNOW she likes you, and now she’s got to prove that she’s interesting and “deep” enough for you to respect.
Make statements like, “I can tell there’s more to you than meets the eye.” Or, “I can tell you’re a spontaneous, adventurous person. That’s good because I can’t hang out with uptight, boring people.”
Or, “I’m sure that men judge you a certain way because of your looks, but I can tell you’re a lot more sensitive than people realize.”
(Our Strip Club Seduction book contains many of these “power statements,” which are designed to loosen her up and get her sharing with you on a deeper level.)
How To Date And Pick Up Strippers
10. It might take more than one visit for you to “close” the dancer you like (getting her number, or meeting her after her shift).
Since you will NOT be buying dances (this frames you as a customer), you’ve got to use strategic conversation to build a connection with her in less than 10 minutes and then A) get her number, or B) arrange to meet her after her shift.
Then tell her, “I don’t want to stop you from making money, and there are obviously a lot of lonely men in here — we’ll continue this conversation soon.”
If you’re at the club with friends, you can continue hanging out; if you’re alone, don’t sit there waiting for her to get freed up.
Make your exit and return in the near future to continue building your connection with her—or, if you were able to arrange an after-work meet, see her then and continue using the correct tactics.
Remember, once you’ve gotten her in your groove, you’ll want to engage her in a deep, compelling conversation, stimulate her attraction triggers, and close the deal.
To master the rest of this process and get intimate with her OUTSIDE of the club, hurry up and download this before the whole page comes down:
Check out this video to get a sneak preview of whats inside:
Later,
Simon Heong