Aug
11
When Is The Best Time To Call Her Out For A Date
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Check out this video…
It’s simple, practicle tips on when exactly to call a woman out and more importantly, the reason why’s…
Well made by Kezia… 
Makes for nice eye candy too 
Talk to you again soon… stay tuned!
Simon Heong
Jun
1
The ‘Key’ To Becoming GREAT With Women
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I’ve been doing coaching for as long as I can remember now, and it still amuses me to see how guys are still writing in, always asking & looking for that one special “trick” or “line” that would ultimately get them to “seal the deal” with the women their eye-ing for.
Of course it’s totally understandable for us as humans to crave for “quick-fixes”, as opposed to taking the traditional, much slower route of banging against the wall, making mistakes, learning from those mistakes, analyzing what went wrong, refining & then “sharpening” those skills to mastery.
But the reality of it is, whether you like it or not, mistakes are an ESSENTIAL part to accelerating your learning process.
As long as you’re trying something new, as long as you’re doing something you’ve never done before, there aill always be a possiblity for you to fumble and make mistakes.
You might get nervous, you might say the wrong things, you might get clumsy and do the wrong things and it’s OK.
Mistakes happen as you’re out of your comfort zone. It’s an annoyingly umcomfortable feeling at first, but that’s exactly how you expand your horizons and grow.
That’s how we as humans grow.
Getting rejected, banging your head on the wall, etc is something you MUST go through in order to get better at this game.
However you hate it, IT IS STILL A MUST!
… no shortcuts.
Now, as men OF COURSE it sucks getting rejected, blown off, made like a fool in front of the women we like when things don’t go our away.
“How could I be sooo stupid!”
It kills our egos, it burns our confidence, it shakes our self-belief, it sucks the life in us, the energy within us, makes us feel useless, powerless, and stupid sometimes… but you know what?
There are no mistakes. The events we bring upon ourselves, no matter how unpleasant, are necessary in order to learn what we need to learn; whatever steps we take, they’re necessary to reach the places we’ve chosen to go.
Mistakes are the BEST way to learn, it FORCES you to learn, it reminds you of the PAIN you went through and it makes you not want to go there… ever.
Ever.
So, go on, take chances, make mistakes. That’s how you grow. Pain nourishes your courage. You have to fail in order to practice being brave.
My personal life motto:
Dare to dream, dare to explore and dare to grow.
Think about it: If you don’t make mistakes, you don’t make anything.
So the next question that normally comes after this is “But I hate that feeling and I don’t ever want to go there… what it does is it kills us… and it’s not easy taking blows, one after another… it’s the aftermath, the dealing with it that’s the hardest…”
Yes, it’s true, it is DAMN hard… no one says life was fair, nor is it easy…
But here’s the thing: If you have made mistakes, there is always another chance for you. You may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing we call ‘failure’ is not the falling down, but the staying down.
A man’s errors are his portals of discovery.
Experience is the name every one gives to their mistakes.
Now, I’m not asking you to actively go out purposely looking for rejections, all I’m saying is that it DOES happen, you’ve got to be ready to face it when it does come and not run over to the corner, cry and complain that this isn’t what you’ve signed up for.
Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.
Do you want to be that guy?
I hope this posting helps.
I’ll talk to you again soon…
Your partner in crime…
Simon Heong
May
21
Magic Bullets Review
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Question:
Have you ever felt like no matter how hard you’ve tried; you burnt holes in your wallet going for seminars,
lair meetings, bought educational CDs, book, audios, DVDs, etc but STILL end up with less than “satisfactory” results with women & dating?
If you have, chances are, you aren’t REALLY getting how everything “works”… yet.
You aren’t sure how everything “gels” together.
I don’t know, maybe some of the stuff you’ve learned just ain’t “jiving” it right with you, it might be too
complicated to apply out in the real world, or it could be plain because things just aren’t making sense to you at all!
Whatever the reason, if you’re serious in wanting to get good at this ONCE AND FOR ALL, download this immediately:
I personally vouch for it 150%.
My personal opinion — It is for every guy, at ANY skill level.
In general, what I like most about it is that it explains the why’s and the how’s of the female mind, our
mind, the overall dynamics of dating & women in GREAT detail. This allows you to understand the reasons behind each phase and their overall objective and facilitates developing your own material and even improvising.
Another plus point is that it is designed in a way that you can just read whichever chapter you want depending on where you are struggling.
It simplifies even the hardest to grasp concepts and it is VERY linear & structured as a whole — to the
point where YOU can go from A to B to C and chart your progress while you measure your success with amazing women in a step by step way.
Pay special attention to the lessons on hook lines, flow, open threads, delivery & input. Go through them several times to ingrain those concepts within your personality.
Oh and just in case you aren’t familiar with Savoy (shame on you ?
He co-founded Love Systems with Mystery who is the main man on his own MEGA-HUGE hit reality tv-show “The Pick-Up Artist” on VH1.
Savoy; Magic Bullets author & one of my long-time buddies, has trained many of the top pick up artists that are seen as gurus today, including Sinn, The Don, Braddock, etc.
For him, it’s always been about having the right FUNDAMENTALS.
As long as the required dedication to self improvement and a desire to succeed is continually focused on, ANYONE can be great with women.
“A system for attracting women is like a strategy for a basketball game. Some teams shoot a lot, others pass a lot and wait for a great shot. Some teams run back quickly on defense, others rebound aggressively. But if you have players who are good at the fundamentals any reasonable strategy can work. Just like if you have good dating fundamentals, many different systems can work.”
I’d say that this is *easily* the most complete, detailed, step-by-step system available for becoming the kind of man that women want to be with.
Get it:
You won’t regret.
Talk to you again soon,
Simon Heong
Mar
31
Using Facebook To Get Laid
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Seems that everyone’s on facebook these days. And guys are constantly writing in asking whether that’s the place to be to find chicks for lays, well, check this article on retrosexuals (people who uses facebook to hook up with past sex partners):
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A few months back, one of my best friends from high school slept with the guy to whom, years earlier, she had lost her virginity. This time around, though, Suzanne wasn’t 16 and they weren’t in her parents’ basement — instead, they had wild sex in a Las Vegas hotel room. Around the same time, she got it on with the first love of her life, a boy she met during high school, and whom she hadn’t seen since he finished breaking her heart during her sophomore year of college. After reconnecting via Facebook and G-chat, they met up, and eventually hooked up.
These two incidents were hardly unique — last year she extensively mined her past for present romantic encounters.”In 2008,” Suzanne unabashedly shares, “I only had sex with two new people, but I never went longer than nine days without having sex.” There was really only one word to describe her (no, not that one). She had become a retrosexual.
The neology is obvious: retrosexuals are people who rewind their own lives, digging into their past to emerge with a current romantic partner. So, too, is the cultural context: like chicken-noodle soup or Beverly Hills 90210 DVD compilations, retrosexing lures its participants with promises of familiarity — a comforting concept that’s hard to come by in these complicated times.
A retrosex episode can fall into two major categories, with some subsets: a one-time hook-up or a longer-term romance. The textbook retrosexual, the perfect specimen, if you will, is the former — someone like Suzanne, who hooks up for casual sex with someone he or she knew in high school. Within this group are two narrower classifications: some retrosexuals, like Suzanne, have been there, done that; others might be reconnecting with old friends but hooking up for the first time.
Here’s an example of a conversation a classic retrosexual might have:
Retro: “I made out with Jon Whateverhisnameis last night!”
Friend: “Jon Whateverhisnameis? That guy you drank vodka with / gave your first blowjob to / studiously ignored at the 11th grade homecoming dance?”
Retro: “Yes! I ran into him / friended him on Facebook / saw his name on a mass e-mail a few weeks ago, and we’ve been chatting — he’s totally great now! We hung out last night and ended up sucking face in an alley.”
Friend: “Weird.”
The other type of retrosexual is someone who romantically reconnects with someone from their past, but not necessarily someone from high school or college. Ex-sex, in other words, but not sordid, desperate, we-just-broke-up-last-week-and-I’m-so-lonely ex-sex. More like, hey-let’s-try-this-again ex-sex. Or, old-habits-die-hard-for-a-reason ex-sex.
Beyond these broad definitions are finer distinctions, such as those who retrosex and then wish they hadn’t (call them “regretrosexuals”), or those who hooked up years ago and have no desire to be reminded of their past romantic encounters (see the sidebar “Fretrosexuals,” by Jeff Inglis).
Typically, the retrosexual must be 25 or older, because true retrosexing calls for some degree of reconnection or rediscovery, not to mention experience. Retrosexing is more common in large cities, where the chances of randomly bumping into an old friend or lover are always higher.
The popularity of social-networking sites — okay, really just Facebook — has made retrosexing all the easier. Whereas potential retros used to have to wait for their five- or 10-year high-school reunions to have old acquaintances fall into their lap, now they can simply search Facebook for high-school classmates and fellow college alumni, and re-establish contact without too much gumshoeing.
Why we turn back
Finding each other on Facebook might be how it starts. But how does retrosexualism gain traction, prompting the transition from innocent reunion to romantic attraction?
Consider Gillian and Chad, both 26, who never dated, but were part of the same circle of friends in high school. Their fledgling relationship epitomizes the most common type of retrosexualism: now that they’re older, they’re reconsidering a previously unexplored romance.
After graduating high school, they ended up at different colleges and lived for several years in different cities. They saw each other occasionally over the years, but neither one ever contemplated romance. Then, about a year ago, both of them ended up in New York City, where they started seeing more of each other in larger groups, gradually planning one-on-one meet-ups. As they became familiar with each other’s adult self, Gillian and Chad increasingly drew nearer.
Recently, they started dating. And while a romance when they were younger would have been unlikely (she was a bit too serious for his class-clown self), Gillian thinks she knows why she went retro.
“As we get older,” she wrote in an e-mail, “it becomes easier to retrosex . . . with old friends, because we’ve more or less finished ‘growing up’ and have less to prove to each other about our lives outside of high school. I also think we’re more likely to be impressed by our high school acquaintances . . . because we’re often surprised by their accomplishments. It’s like, one day you meet somebody, and they’re no longer the dork or loser or loudmouth in high school — they’re a professional man. Which can be intriguing and appealing.”
(The reverse can hold true, too. That guy who was hot 10 years ago might not have held onto his good looks, yet somehow he hasn’t lost his appeal, because you’re “still seeing them through the lens of their high-school appearance and persona,” says another occasional retrosexual, 26-year-old Sarah.)
Regardless, it’s easy to find yourself falling for someone with whom you share a history, whether that history was meaningful (you were involved) or fleeting (you were in the same biology class).
Gillian, who has had two retrosexual encounters over the past few years, describes the strange intimacy of hooking up with someone you knew as a teenager: “There’s a level of familiarity . . . that can actually make things awkward at first. Like, you’re seeing this guy who you’ve gone through so many years with, but now you’re both naked. [It] can be almost comical. . . . But it can also be amazing, because there’s this sense of connection that, although it might not be a true love connection, is unique in that there’s a finite number of people in the world you knew in the high-school context.” (For Chad’s thoughts about all this, keep reading.)
Indeed, that comfort and connection is the whole reason that retrosexing is so appealing, says Massachusetts love expert Paul Falzone, the CEO of the online and in-person dating companies eLove, Together Dating, and The Right One. In these rather desperate times, with the economy particularly terrible for young job-seekers, and the specter of Middle Eastern crisis looming large, all we can be sure of is that we can’t be sure of anything. “Society is going to see more [retrosexing] happening than in the past,” says Falzone. “It’s security, it’s safety, it’s bringing back old feelings that make you feel young again. People are resorting to things they’re familiar with, that they’re comfortable with.”
Of course, that same sense of familiarity is what so often drives us back into the arms of ex-lovers — even more recent ones. Callie, 29, recently reignited an old, extinguished flame after a three-year hiatus. When they met up for beers, after years of relatively sullen, angry silence, she expected a mere friendly reunion. But the outcome was quite different.
“When we saw each other, the chemistry was immediate and intense,” she says. “I remembered both why we were together in the first place and why we’d ended. There was the comfort of the shared past. We had an immediate ease with each other — one that was both relaxed and extremely exciting. A feeling of new romance, with the added benefit of having known each other extremely well. The nervous, fluttery, exceptionally turn-onable [feelings], combined with knowing each other’s backgrounds, likes, dislikes, senses of humors, families, etc.”
It makes sense that retrosexing is so appealing to twenty- and thirtysomethings, who otherwise feel adrift in their quarter-life malaise: participants are being permitted to regress. Romancing with people you already know cuts out one of the most harrowing elements of adulthood — forging new personal connections.
“[F]or the first time in your life, you are not automatically surrounded by people your age who are doing the same things you are doing,” wrote Abby Wilner and Catherine Stocker in their 2005 book, The Quarterlifer’s Companion:How To Get on the Right Career Path, Control Your Finances, and Find the Support Network You Need To Thrive (McGraw-Hill). “The challenge of meeting people and making new friends is one of the more common themes in the [quarter-life crisis] community.”
Combine the ease of Facebook socialization with the relative effortlessness that comes with chatting up old acquaintances, and you’ve got the lazy man’s dream-dating scenario.
Comfort levels
As with any unique type of relationship, the retrosexual one has its quirks. For one thing, it can be difficult to tell what’s romantic and what’s friendly, especially if the reconnection is made with a platonic premise. After all, archetypal implications of “dating” — like offering to pay for dinner, e-mailing or texting just for fun, or casual physical contact — are the province of friends and lovers both.
“You’re very hesitant to make your move,” says Chad, the 26 year old who recently started up a retrosexual relationship with Gillian. “You’re afraid you’re going to misinterpret signals. You’re not sure if what’s happening is romantic or not. You don’t know whether you should attempt to kiss the person.”
“The flip side,” he continues, “is when you actually do make some sort of move, you’ll be able to be really bold, because you already have a certain comfort level.” As a result, all those superficial worries — Who will pay? When will she call? Was that brush of the hand a mistake, or was it intentional? — become less nerve-racking.
Another complication can be the inevitable shared-friends group. Not only will the retrosexual duo make waves depending on how, whether, and when they spill the beans about their rendez-vous, they’ll also likely grapple with knowledge of their partner’s past intimate experiences. (In fact, this might lull some people into a false sense of security — as though knowing part of someone’s sexual past might make sleeping with them less of a health risk.)
And the better you know someone, the more dangerous it is if something goes wrong. Josh, 28, who sheepishly shares that he’s recently retrosexed with at least three women, acknowledges both the benefits and drawbacks of hooking up with someone you’ve known forever.
“The best part of that is the comfort level you have with someone beforehand,” he says. “Because you know the person, and if the timing’s right, it can be pretty cozy. The danger, though, is that afterward, things can change, and if you’re not careful, you might lose your friend. Which sucks.”
That is exactly what happened to Ellen, a 35 year old who recently found herself tangled up with an old friend from her junior-high days. When they first bumped into each other downtown, it was amazing, she recalls. They laughed and had a great time. When they finally had sex — once — it was awesome.
But Ellen had recently emerged from a four-and-a-half-year relationship, and wasn’t ready to jump into something new. She told him so. The dude’s extreme negative reaction (we’re talking aggressive e-mails, misogynist talk) was a shock, which made Ellen realize that, while he might be a cool friend, his romantic persona “wasn’t the sweet person I’d thought he was. We simply cannot be friends.” Perhaps if they’d never retro’ed, they could have preserved their relationship by avoiding romance.
Look at me now
As exciting as it can be, retrosexing isn’t all fun and games. The emotional implications of these blasts from the past can run deeper.
In some cases, retrosexuals seek to achieve something like vindication, or triumph, through their experience. Consider an accomplished, sexy woman who felt significantly less confident in high school — and allowed that lack of self-esteem to color her relationships with guys. These days, if she rekindles an affair with someone who shunned or mistreated her, she revels in having the upper hand. At the very least, she makes sure it’s an even playing field.
“A lot of it is about . . . feeling like I can correct for ‘mistakes’ in the past,” explains Suzanne. “Not just showing off an adult sexuality, but also being able to alter and correct for the power dynamics of years ago. With both S. [the heartbreaker] and J. [the Vegas fling], [her modus operandi] was kind of a, ‘Look at me now’ thing, like somehow, by virtue of seeing them and sleeping with them again and not caring about it, I was reaching back and repairing the hurt that had been done to me in the past.”
She, um, elaborates: “Like, yeah, ‘Look who’s all grown up and hotter than you now, bitches, so why don’t you shut the eff up and eat my pussy for the next three hours. Eff it . . . for the next three days. You’ve got a lot of making up to do for all those bj’s in high school.’ ” (Forgive her, she’s actually a very charming individual.)
And reconnecting with old lovers, ones who you shared time with later in life, can be even more fraught with confusion. Here’s what happened with Callie and her former beau after their brief renaissance: “The insecurities that I linked with being with him, ones I thought I’d gotten over, re-emerged. The casual re-exploration began to beg the question: ‘What are we doing, are we getting back together?’ which led to hard talks and confusing wants. [A]s we spent more time together, the reasons we’d originally broken up became louder than the reasons we’d been together.”
Still, upon reflection, Anne pinpoints the undeniable appeal of the retrosexual sex-perience.
“I don’t regret the reunion,” she adds. “It was a necessary final chapter. Impossible to resist for the combination of the new-ness and the familiarity.”
Callie might not be a regretrosexual, but she could have been. Indeed, for every retrosexual fairy-tale ending (They exist! We have Facebook status-change evidence!), there’s a regretrosexual one — which suggests that, even when it comes to love, very rarely can you go home again.
Mar
26
How To Pick Up Girls In Cafes
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Watch this video…
Good pick-up