Jun
1
The ‘Key’ To Becoming GREAT With Women
Filed Under Dating Advice, Dating Wizards, General Rants, Internet Dating
I’ve been doing coaching for as long as I can remember now, and it still amuses me to see how guys are still writing in, always asking & looking for that one special “trick” or “line” that would ultimately get them to “seal the deal” with the women their eye-ing for.
Of course it’s totally understandable for us as humans to crave for “quick-fixes”, as opposed to taking the traditional, much slower route of banging against the wall, making mistakes, learning from those mistakes, analyzing what went wrong, refining & then “sharpening” those skills to mastery.
But the reality of it is, whether you like it or not, mistakes are an ESSENTIAL part to accelerating your learning process.
As long as you’re trying something new, as long as you’re doing something you’ve never done before, there aill always be a possiblity for you to fumble and make mistakes.
You might get nervous, you might say the wrong things, you might get clumsy and do the wrong things and it’s OK.
Mistakes happen as you’re out of your comfort zone. It’s an annoyingly umcomfortable feeling at first, but that’s exactly how you expand your horizons and grow.
That’s how we as humans grow.
Getting rejected, banging your head on the wall, etc is something you MUST go through in order to get better at this game.
However you hate it, IT IS STILL A MUST!
… no shortcuts.
Now, as men OF COURSE it sucks getting rejected, blown off, made like a fool in front of the women we like when things don’t go our away.
“How could I be sooo stupid!”
It kills our egos, it burns our confidence, it shakes our self-belief, it sucks the life in us, the energy within us, makes us feel useless, powerless, and stupid sometimes… but you know what?
There are no mistakes. The events we bring upon ourselves, no matter how unpleasant, are necessary in order to learn what we need to learn; whatever steps we take, they’re necessary to reach the places we’ve chosen to go.
Mistakes are the BEST way to learn, it FORCES you to learn, it reminds you of the PAIN you went through and it makes you not want to go there… ever.
Ever.
So, go on, take chances, make mistakes. That’s how you grow. Pain nourishes your courage. You have to fail in order to practice being brave.
My personal life motto:
Dare to dream, dare to explore and dare to grow.
Think about it: If you don’t make mistakes, you don’t make anything.
So the next question that normally comes after this is “But I hate that feeling and I don’t ever want to go there… what it does is it kills us… and it’s not easy taking blows, one after another… it’s the aftermath, the dealing with it that’s the hardest…”
Yes, it’s true, it is DAMN hard… no one says life was fair, nor is it easy…
But here’s the thing: If you have made mistakes, there is always another chance for you. You may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing we call ‘failure’ is not the falling down, but the staying down.
A man’s errors are his portals of discovery.
Experience is the name every one gives to their mistakes.
Now, I’m not asking you to actively go out purposely looking for rejections, all I’m saying is that it DOES happen, you’ve got to be ready to face it when it does come and not run over to the corner, cry and complain that this isn’t what you’ve signed up for.
Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.
Do you want to be that guy?
I hope this posting helps.
I’ll talk to you again soon…
Your partner in crime…
Simon Heong
Comments
Leave a Reply